Let`s face it, we were all once 3-year-olds who stood in the middle of the living room and everybody thought we were so adorable. Only some of us grow up and get paid for it.
But ... in my own experience of male and female directors, people have a much, much harder time taking a direct command from a woman. It`s somehow very difficult for people.
I mean, come on; when you have people writing these things, that you`re the greatest thing that ever ate scenery, you`re dead. You`re fucking dead. How can you even presume to begin a new character? It`s a killer.
Sometimes under-preparation is very good, because it instills fear and fear is galvanizing. It makes you break out of yourself. If you`re prepared, then you think you`re ready, and if you think you`re ready, then you`re not ready.
It`s a lesson I learned in drama school: the teacher asks, how do you be the queen? And everybody says, `Oh it`s about posture and authority.` And they said, no, it`s about how the air in the room shifts when you walk in. And that`s everyone else`s work.